Attraction

I think that it is very fascinating, how as humans we tend to attract people who are alot like us. I am not talking about dating necessarily. I am just talking about what I have observed in my own life. Right now, I think of two good girlfriends, who I met in very different places in my life. One, was in high school. We have the exact same musical taste, and we have always seemed to just "get" each other. She is married now, and has a little girl who seems adorable. When we were in high school, I used to talk to her about God, and she came with me to church at least once. I never knew if it stuck with her or not, until recently when she told me that she goes to church now, and she thinks of me when she goes there. This in itself is huge. I can die a happy woman :). I love our friendship, even though we haven't seen each other in years. Facebook is a miracle worker :)
The second girlfriend, I met in college. She is single, and lives far away. We also seem to understand each other in ways that others cannot. God has brought us together and offered us empowerment, through our friendship with each other. According to Justin Sears...Fem-Nazis...if you will. I love this, and I wish we could see more of each other.
There is a third girlfriend, who I have just started getting to know within the last year. We are in the same grad program. We are both single, and Christians, and I really think that we have the same sense of humor. And we both cannot understand why the other is still single :) It is a joy to be able to share life experiences with someone, and know that their past is very similar to your own. And to know that you have similar goals for the future.
In my graduate program, I am currently learning about assessment (did I mention that last week I had to take an assessment for a couple...and I'm pretty sure that I made up the traits of my spouse...because he is missing in action. This leads me to think of the inside joke I have with my family at Christmas, how my husband isn't going to make it, because I don't know where he is). There are tons of them. According to Myers Briggs, I am an ENFP: Extravert, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. 8.1% of the U.S. population gets this score. Everyone has different percentages for each subcategory. I am willing to guess, that these ladies who I have met in my life, fit into this category as well. Or at least pretty similar. This would reinstate the idea that you attract people who are the most like you. This would reinstate why I feel the need to go running to one of these girls when I can feel myself repeating old bad habits, or creating new ones. As if to say, "You know me the best because you can see yourself in me...save me from myself. NOW!" They know just the right thing to say to get you out of your funk. I don't think that I know any men who fit into this category :) My brother certainly doesn't. He doesn't break out the intuition. And my dad is definitely an intravert. My mom always says that she is married to a bachelor. He does his own laundry, he cooks his own meals...unless she asks in advance.
I love the feeling that you get, when you know that somebody really gets you. It doesn't happen very often, but when it does...it makes you feel a little less crazy :)
I don't feel that I have said anything really profound here. I think that you would have to know these girls, and how truly wonderful they are. And our similar journeys. Maybe someday my life story will be published as a biography. Not of someone famous...just as the life of someone. How do you condense 54 journals into one book? 54 journals. I can say that I am proud of this. Sticking with something for the last 15 years of my life. Writing obsessively. Filling a few pages when I am happy. Writing CHAPTERS when I am angry.
Wow...April Kay... you are random today.